Save The Marriage Review
about Save The Marriage Even If Only You Want To By Dr Lee H BaucomSave The Marriage By Lee H.Baucom Ph.D is NOT your typical product about rebuilding relationships. For starters it is actually written by someone with a Doctorate who has years of extensive experience with marriage counselling. Secondly, it is not designed to tredge up all the dirt and bad feelings that you are harbouring for your partner, like so many therapy based sessions. Instead it is tailored to finding the points of connection that still exist in the marriage and that can be strengthened, and not the areas where things are at their weakest.
Here is a video where Dr Lee Baocom explains his approach (you can sign up for the free ecourse that he discusses in the video by clicking on the link below the video).
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So, as Dr Baucom explains it, if you ditch the tired old methods that most therapists recommend, then you can easily catapult the success rate of saving marriages to 90% instead of the rather pitiful figures of about 20% that he says most therapists and marriage counselors experience.
Now, in reality this shouldn't really surprise us. After all, the way that we became attracted to our partners in the first place was NOT by cross examining them about their 'feelings'. It was getting a good sense of who they are, enjoying the energy, and then choosing to spend more time around them. In short we 'fancied them'!
It was from that platform that love was nurtured. Not by coldly and analytically raking over ever reason why we should or should not be attracted to them. We know that's nonsense in reality, but somehow return to that strategy when we experience problems.
It sounds like it should work. Talk about your feelings. Analyse what went wrong and fix it. But it doesn't.
Why is that?
The reason is that the focus of all those therapies has it all backwards. They want you to focus on what's wrong. Presumably so you can fix it. But that is like looking at a beautiful 5th Century Chinese vase and only looking for the cracks and chips! We all know that they are there, but if you only focus on those, rather then the amazing colours of the vase, the shape of the vase, the intricate painting etc. Then you are missing out on a whole lot that is GOOD with the vase.
The same is true with your marriage. You cannot approach it from the perspective of failure, or problems. That approach is doomed to failure. It will simply make you feel WORSE about the whole thing, and not actually serve to improve anything.
If on the other hand you start by focusing on the few things that you do still agree on, building bridges rather then walls, then you have something to work on. Something to build on. Make sense?
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Where your attention goes, your mind follows. If you tap into pain, grief and all the stuff thats wrong with your marriage, then you may as well go and sign the divorce papers right now, because frankly it's doomed. But, if instead you want to save your marriage, then you can embark on a program like Dr Baucom outlines in this book where you can build up from the foundations again.
Dr Baucom talks about the four most damaging myths that many people suffer from when looking to save your marraiage:
These are:
MYTH 1: You need to learn more communication skills
MYTH 2: There is only one way to go from the brink of divorce to marital heaven
MYTH 3: You can't save your marriage if your partner isn't bothered
MYTH 4: Time Heals All
He goes into why these are false and what you need to do instead. In the process laying down 8 distinct approaches that you can take to save your marriage (so its not a case of "one size fits all") and you can decide which feels the most right to you to try first.
He goes on to discuss the different stages of crisis that a marriage can go through, so that you can guage where you are on the path. This is useful because it emphasises that your marriage can be saved even when it seems hopeless. It's simply that the journey may take a little more time.
And that journey is not just about returning the marriage to where it was before. It is about moving the relationship on a stage further, so that you are happier, more in love and more fulfilled then before. The aim therefore is not to return you to the state of a somehow 'acceptable', nonchalent marriage, but to return you to real happiness. In effect to get you the marriage of your dreams. The white picket fence conclusion not only in your mind, but in reality.
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Here are what some folk who went through Dr Baucoms book and applied it had to say about it.
My relationship with my husband has gotten so much better !! thank you, thank you thank you"
-Robin R.
-Nancy T
-Brad R.
In addition to the main book, there are also 5 other books and two audios that are included in the package as follows:
The Books...
Bonus 1 - The Top Five Things NOT To Do When Your Partnert Wants Out
Bonus 2 - Quick Start Guide To Saving Your Marriage
Bonus 3 - Down 'N' Dirty Guide To Saving Your Marriage
Bonus 4 - 5 Rules For Fair Fighting Report
Bonus 5 - Change of Heart by Paul and Jennifer Thibeault
The Audio Recordings...
Audio 1 - Coping With A Midlife Marriage Crisis
Audio 2 - Recovering From An Affiar
So Dr Baucom offers a lot of value here.
If you find yourself in the unfortunate position of having marriage problems then the reality is that if you could turn it around you would save yourself a lot of heartache. You could of course try conventional counselling, but then the results from that are not always great, and it will undoubtedly be expensive. A better first step might be to get a book like this and see if you can turn things around with the help of that.
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