How To Bring Back A Lost Love
When things don't work out in a relationship, the first thing a lot of people think about is how to get back together and bring back a lost love. However, that can be a lot harder than it seems. After all, if you can't overcome the basic relationship challenges that drove you apart, things aren't going to work out in the long run. Restoring your lost love is about a lot more than just saying you'll make it work this time. Here's a look at some of the major challenges you'll face, and how to overcome them.
Fear of Intimacy
We spend so much of our lives trying to be independent that being truly intimate with someone can be a pretty scary thing. This doesn't just mean physical intimacy, either. For many people, emotional intimacy is a whole lot scarier. If you or your partner aren't willing to share your innermost thoughts, feelings, and anxieties, you're probably going to have trouble down the line. Relationships that lack trust end up feeling distant, awkward, or contrived, because you can't really share your true selves with one another. If intimacy is a problem for either of you, it's something you're going to have to work on before you try getting back together. In order to bring back a lost love you need to be open to sharing your feelinsg with your partner.
Fear of Abandonment
We all want to have someone we can trust and rely on, but that usually comes with the fear that we aren't going to get what we want. Especially if you've had some bad relationships in the past, it can be hard to feel sure this person's not going to leave you stranded. Even if the relationship is working out well, there's a chance something will change.
That can make you feel pretty nervous. However, it's important not to give into it. After all, if you're afraid your partner will abandon you, it'll end up being obvious. Fear of abandonment can actually lead to your worries coming true. If you want to get back together, and you're afraid your love is going to leave you again, think hard about how you're going to deal with this situation.
Fear of Change
Most people aren't all that fond of change. While we might like the occasional surprise, we like the world to keep on working in a predictable way. Too much change can make us feel uncomfortable and uncertain - even if it's a good type of change. If things have changed in your life, it could make getting back together a tricky proposition. Think about where you are now, what's different about your lives, and whether any of those changes might cause problems. Think about whether you're willing to live a little differently in order to get your love back. If change seems too frightening, it might not be time to rush back into things.
Not The End...
These challenges don't have to get in the way of putting the pieces back together and enjoying a happy life together. Just because most people are afraid of trusting someone who's not worth it, worried whether their loved ones will stick around, and afraid of big changes doesn't mean that those obstacles can't be overcome. If you're willing to face your fears and deal with your relationship challenges, you've got some great possibilities in front of you. In fact, taking a look at the things that might get in your way is the first step to take to bring back your lost love. After all, you can't avoid those problems if you don't pay attention to them.
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